Working with Couples
All relationships are unique. Even so there are times when couples find themselves stuck in repetitive patterns that leave them feeling misunderstood or alone. These can lead to feelings of being shut out, attacked, unwanted, not being heard, or craving greater closeness. Not risking their private feelings with each other results in a lack of mutual understanding often felt as a growing sense of emotional distance. Some common themes explored through relationship work include a lack of trust, feelings of jealousy that can lead to abusive behaviour, the impact of sexual or financial issues, work related stress, different goals, values or life changes, controlling behaviour or the impact of a betrayal or affair.
Whatever the current issues talking with someone with knowledge, training and experience can illuminate and guide you through them. Learning how to relate in a deeper emotional way often involves investigation into the feelings that lie beneath these patterns and the important messages they carry. This is where a therapist can help to develop an emotional awareness of the implicit needs underneath these defensive patterns.
Our Approach
In sessions couples begin a process where needs can be shared more directly. This creates a deeper emotional bond which becomes the foundation for a new intimacy between them. This developing communication together creates space for individual growth within the relationship. When a relationship serves both these needs then couples have a life-enhancing bond not only for each other but also for themselves as individuals.
As sessions progress, clarity around previously muddied issues develops. This encourages the transformative conversations that allow for the continued recognition of previously unmet needs. Nourishing a relationship in this way satisfies our desire to meet these needs both for ourselves and for each other. You can then decide what you would like the future to hold for yourself individually and as a couple.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
There is no pointless navel-gazing involved in working with Nick – his approach is unfailingly kind but also challenging, and there is never a wasted moment. If he picks you up on a detail you previously thought was insignificant or asks a question that seems obscure (and he will), trust him and go with it. All will become clear!
I have been seeing Nick for over a year, and in this short time period he has managed to change my life completely, and I will forever be grateful for that.
Always calm and confident, Nick walked me through each challenge and difficulty, throughout a mutual discussion and endless patience. In addition to being a knowledgeable and insightful professional, Nick’s kindness and sincere empathy makes him a wonderful therapist. I feel privileged to have met Nick, and I can’t imagine going through this process with anyone else. Thank you Nick
Finding someone you connect with and who quickly understands your issues can be a daunting task, but Nick helped me realise that I didn’t need feel overwhelmed by all the plates I was spinning and we have since been working together to help rebuild my confidence and fully engage with and appreciate life again.
If you are looking for psychological freedom from your troubles and to live a happier, joyful life, then I would highly recommend HTP, and suggest you get in touch Nick when you finish reading this. I think he’ll give you a free first consultation, so what’s there to lose.
I started sessions with Nick to overcome a number of emotional issues that left me completely overwhelmed, anxious and depressed. I found the sessions instantly helpful, simply knowing that Nick was listening to me, understanding my difficulties and offering care and attention. Through the sessions, I was able to view my problems and my life in a completely different light. This has helped in ways I never thought possible
The initial discomfort of feeling the need to seek help soon ebbed away as Nick’s open , non-formulaic and inspiring approach first challenged me to reconsider my view of myself but also , the world around me. I found our sessions frequently to be both a source of thought provoking insight and a focal point to a more reasoned and energised future. I now truly appreciate the time I spent with Nick and consider him to be the significant inspiration to my ongoing well being. Thank you , Nick!
